The average couple waits six years after the start of serious problems to seek relationship counseling. Like a physical injury that becomes more difficult to heal over time without being treated, relationships and marriages are the same. Being proactive can prevent more lengthy, potentially painful, and costly treatment later. When couples hit what is close …
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Measuring Counselor Success A client recently asked me a question I had not heard before. They asked, “What is your success rate?” I could not give a clear answer. The best evidence I have are anonymous surveys. The surveys I have received are overwhelmingly positive, but in fairness, fewer than 2% of clients choose to …
Early childhood trauma can lead to future difficulties with relationships. One technique for addressing negative patterns that result from trauma is the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM). NARM points to environmental failures as sometimes leading to later problems connecting with a partner. NARM brings nervous system regulation into clinical practice (Heller & LaPierre, 2012). This type …
It is generally a misnomer that the primary job of a counselor is to give advice and be a relationship advisor. Some say counselors should never give direct advice, while we believe it is an advanced skill to be used with caution. After all, you are the experts of your own life, and you have …
Disclose What Happened Affairs are usually not disclosed but are instead uncovered. As a result, affair recovery can be especially difficult for the betrayed partner. The typical scenario is the partner who committed the affair either lies about what happened or answers questions as if they are on the witness stand in a courtroom (brief, …
