Men and Emotionally Focused Therapy

Men are often raised not to show their emotions. Men are often taught not to try to understand their emotions. Perhaps for some, it is partly biological and a result of evolution. The irony is that understanding what deep and core emotions mean can make processing them must more pleasant. Some people easily recognize an […]

The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages are detailed in a book by the same title by Gary Chapman (Chapman, 2015). The current cost for the paperback is $7.57 on Amazon. Chapman found that there are five principal ways couples give and receive love. Couples typically do not have the same top two love languages, which can both […]

5 Reasons To Make Time for Couples Counseling

One reason couples who want to improve their relationship choose not to go to couples counseling is that they are afraid of the time commitment. This is understandable and can be difficult for those with already busy lives. However, the following are 5 reasons to make time anyway. 1. What is more important than your […]

How Much Fighting Is Normal?

How much fighting is normal, and when is it too much? Unfortunately, there is no easy answer. Growing up, I saw my parents argue maybe five times. Of course, they had things to fight about, but they kept them inside or made a strong effort not to fight in front of my brothers and me. […]

Couples Counseling and Homework

Clients sometimes ask if they will have homework as part of the couples counseling process. In one sense, the answer is always yes. Practicing what you learn in therapy is key to improvement. However, this type of homework is less prescriptive and is designed to happen naturally through your interactions. Another form of assignment includes […]