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While skipping pre marriage counseling won't necessarily doom your marriage, there are some potential downsides to consider. First, couples might enter marriage with unrealistic ideas about happiness. Counseling helps discuss how they'll handle conflict, finances, and chores, thereby managing expectations from the outset. Additionally, some couples shy away from tough topics like in-laws, finances, or past relationships. A neutral counselor can create a safe space to bring up these potentially volatile subjects. In other words, counseling provides a platform for open and honest communication, which can be difficult to achieve on your own. Furthermore, counseling teaches communication skills for navigating disagreements. Without them, couples might fall into patterns of yelling, withdrawing, or stonewalling. Consequently, unresolved conflict can build resentment and erode the foundation of a relationship. Even more importantly, we all have emotional baggage from past experiences. Counseling can help identify these and develop healthy coping mechanisms to avoid letting them impact the marriage. Unaddressed baggage can lead to unhealthy dynamics and misunderstandings down the line. Finally, partners might have different ideas about what marriage entails. Counseling helps surface these differences and find common ground. Through open communication, couples can establish healthy expectations and navigate potential challenges together. Even seemingly strong relationships can benefit from premarital counseling. It's an investment in your future happiness together.
Planning a wedding can be a whirlwind. Between venue hunting, guest lists, and cake tastings, it’s easy to see why premarital counseling might fall by the wayside. In fact, many couples skip this step entirely, and that’s perfectly normal. There can be a range of reasons for this, but it’s important to weigh the potential downsides before making a final decision.
One common reason couples avoid counseling is simply feeling overwhelmed.
With so much already on their plates, the thought of adding extra appointments can feel daunting. Busy schedules and tight budgets can also be a factor. After all, weddings can be expensive, and counseling adds another line item to the already hefty price tag.
Beyond logistics, some couples might feel hesitant due to misconceptions. There’s a fear that counseling implies something is wrong with the relationship, or that a therapist will come in and judge them. On the contrary, premarital counseling is a proactive measure to strengthen a good thing. It’s a safe space to discuss important topics and develop communication skills – tools that benefit any relationship, not just those in need of fixing.
Perhaps the biggest reason couples avoid counseling is a simple lack of awareness. Many couples may not know what premarital counseling entails or the potential benefits it offers. They might think it’s just for couples on the brink, not those on the happy path to marriage.
While skipping counseling won’t guarantee problems down the road, it can leave important conversations undiscussed. By taking the time to explore expectations, communication styles, and potential challenges, couples can set themselves up for a happier, healthier marriage. Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue counseling is a personal one. But by understanding the potential benefits, couples can make an informed choice about their future together.
Before marriage, a couple often experiences their peak happiness. The infatuation phase has typically not worn off at this point. So, why would such a couple require counseling? Pre-marriage or engagement counseling typically serves as a preventive measure, helping to maintain the strength of the relationship in the years ahead. Engaged couples should also recognize that relationships go through phases, each with its pros and cons. Unfortunately, many couples mistakenly believe in a fairy-tale ending without acknowledging the effort required. :
Also, check out some of the benefits of secular pre-marriage counseling and Christian pre-marriage counseling.
The following are common objections.
That may be the best option for you. Many religious organizations offer or even require some form of counseling through their organization. You may decide this is affordable (or free) and more than sufficient. Religious or Christian premarital counseling may work well for you. On the other hand, you may choose to talk more elsewhere about more secular topics. For example, you may not be comfortable talking about your sex life with the clergy. Your religious counseling may need to be supplemented by a licensed counselor to help you work through associated anxiety. Many religious organizations say they offer "pre-marriage counseling", and while what they offer may be valuable, it's not legal to call it counseling unless they are licensed counselors. Extending your counseling outside a religious organization may also appeal to you to get another perspective
We have curriculum from Prepare and Enrich (among others) that can either be Christian-based or secular.
No one has to discuss anything they aren't comfortable sharing. Hopefully, we will develop a healthy therapeutic relationship where no topic related to your marriage feels uncomfortable or off-limits.
I try to never take sides, except for the side of the relationship. That said, many men have said they prefer to work with a male premarital counselor.
The office is located right off I-270, near Tuttle Mall in Dublin, Ohio. It is a short drive from Hilliard, Upper Arlington, Worthington, Westerville, New Albany, Powell, or Columbus, Ohio. Telehealth is available for anyone who is in Ohio during the videoconference.
That doesn't happen often, but it is a possibility. Wouldn't you rather know ahead of time that you perhaps need more time to think things through or want to achieve specific goals first? But, of course, this decision is ultimately up to you, and you won't be pushed either way. However, the question could come up in pre-marriage counseling for you to discuss with your partner.
We have in-person appointments near Columbus, Ohio, near Dublin, Ohio. Telehealth appointments are available anywhere in Ohio.
Contact us. You can also view the site's main frequently asked questions page for more general questions. Also, see the blog about five common premarriage questions.
Read my bio and see if I sound like a good fit. This website has a wealth of information, but you may also schedule a free 15-minute consultation.
Clients often say I have a calm manner and way about myself that makes them feel safe and puts them at ease. The fact that I have had a successful 17-year marriage doesn’t hurt either.
Phone: 614-327-1600
Fax: 380-204-9901
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