Great Sailors Aren’t Made From Smooth Seas

Relationships tend to start pretty well. Most long-term relationships start with at least one good date. They can be more casual, fun, and perhaps your primary concern is making sure your partner likes you, without taking a lot of time to think about whether you like them. You may spend a lot of time apart […]

Just Solve the Problem

In my own experience and experience working with couples, I can’t recall a single case where a relationship was made stronger through excuses, defensiveness, or finger-pointing the other way. My first boss was very wise and his tagline was “just solve the problem.” Imagine going to a nice steakhouse to celebrate a milestone. You paid […]

Ten More Ways to Get the Most out of Couples Therapy

If you haven’t already, you may want to start by reading the 10 ways to get the most out of couples therapy. This often happens with people who are good at making decisions and taking control at work. What your partner feels is what they feel. You can disagree about whether they “should” feel that […]

Ten Ways to Get the Most out of Couples Therapy

The following is a list of just a few things that can make therapy more successful. You may notice that most of them don’t directly have much to do with what is done in counseling itself. While these are common topics to discuss in counseling and much more detail and strategies can be addressed there, […]

Setting Realistic Expectations

I was recently in a car accident and hit by a semi that luckily didn’t do way more damage than it did. I am primarily okay after several months of treatment and was lucky in the grand scheme of things. The first visit to the Chiropractor was a little frustrating. I paid around $200+ for […]