Recognizing Your Fears

In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), partners often fall into patterns of a pursuer and a withdrawer. Both typically act in ways they think will help their relationship, but this typically backfires. The withdrawer often fears if they don’t retreat, there will be arguments, hurt feelings, or nothing positive accomplished. The pursuer typically feels a need […]

Are You Strong Enough to Address Your Feelings?

Many male clients prefer to see a male counselor. As a male, I can relate to not wanting to address feelings and many male (and some female) clients like this. I can relate to sweeping things under the rug or moving on without dwelling on the past. I was raised to deal with problems all […]