Need Help With a Romantic Relationship?
A cardinal point represents the north, south, east, and west points of a compass. These points help you find your direction. Sometimes one can go directly to their true north, while others may follow a path using multiple points and change course several times. Cardinal Point Counseling aims to help you find your direction in romantic relationships. As a Columbus, Ohio area practice in Dublin, Ohio, we serve Columbus and surrounding communities. We specialize in premium couples counseling, pre-marriage counseling, and marriage counseling. The location is convenient for anyone wanting therapy in Columbus, Ohio, or virtually anywhere in Ohio. Our objective is to provide solutions to help you meet your goals. We are all about transparency, so please read about realistic expectations for Columbus couples counseling.
Is Your Relationship Not What it Used to be?
Is the chemistry you once felt gone? Do you spend more time fighting than getting along? Have there been thoughts of separation? Perhaps one or both partners has been unfaithful? Are finances and arguments over money a concern? It is normal for romance to dwindle over time, but many couples wait until they are already in a bad place to try couples counseling (but it’s never too late). Many couples struggle with communication, but there is often more behind communication difficulties than just communication. Relationships can become more challenging and also more rewarding as time passes. Individual appointments may be appropriate for you, or you can try marathon therapy.
“Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.”– John M. Gottman
It is Normal for the Spark to Go Away
Feeling more like roommates than partners? When couples first fall in love, the critical part of the brain is less active when they are together. As time passes, what used to be slightly annoying or even cute habits can become significant sources of annoyance and contention. Couples with kids get to experience the joy of having a larger family, but they can also bring increased stress. COVID has not helped the situation, as social isolation and unemployment have led to increased depression. Some couples resort to cheating, which is made easier by the internet and more people working outside the home. Marriage therapists in Columbus, Ohio, can help with these concerns.
“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be… It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, your risk is even greater.”– Erica Jong
There is Hope
We use the Gottman Method, which is based on over 40 years of research. This is coupled with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and an individualized approach designed together with you. It may not be enough to find a therapist who asks you to talk through problems without using a proven methodology. These methods can sometimes help couples even on the verge of separation or divorce to repair the relationship. By learning better ways to communicate and interact, couples can rediscover what they once had. Learning the root causes of communication issues can be even more important. Exercises include getting to know one another once again, learning how to have positive interactions, seeing things from your partner’s point of view, rebuilding trust, discovering how to repair from a fight, rekindling the romance, and learning how to compromise.
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“Love is, in actuality, the pinnacle of evolution, the most compelling survival mechanism of the human species…because love drives us to bond emotionally with a precious few others who offer us safe haven from the storms of life…It is as basic to life, health, and happiness as the drives for food, shelter, or sex.”– Dr. Susan Johnson
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What Can We Expect in Relationship Counseling?
Many people realize their relationship has issues or just opportunities for growth, but feel that couples counseling is intimidating or sounds scary. Like a physical injury, the sooner a relationship is treated, the more likely it is to heal. Preventative care can help reduce the frequency or severity of later problems. Sometimes the hardest part is having the courage to take the first step and schedule an appointment (and show up :)). There are no packages to buy or commitments to make, and couples can usually tell within about four sessions if it is helping. Please read about realistic expectations in couple counseling.
“Studies show that, in the hands of a good counselor, marriage counseling is successful 70- 80% of the time”William Doherty, PhD, LCSW
Some fear that talking about problems will just make things worse. It is for this reason that communication strategies and relationship education come early on. The first session is designed to focus on the strengths of your relationship and understanding your goals. We know you want to get to solving problems, so you won’t be overloaded with a full analysis of your past or bombarded with assessments. That said, you have the option of taking an assessment ($39) from the Gottman Institute that identifies your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and specific interventions for your relationship. This assessment and associated interventions are based on over 40 years of research. It is also recommended that each of you meet individually at least once early on to have uninterrupted time to tell your story.
The duration of therapy can vary depending on your needs, but the average duration for the best results is 6-15 sessions (yes, there is a wide range). Some couples need less than that (e.g. pre-marriage counseling, discernment counseling), and some relationships may take a year to heal.
Finding the Right Fit is Important
The therapeutic relationship you have with a couple’s counselor is extremely important. It is important to find what you consider the best available marriage counseling in Columbus, Ohio. It is essential to find someone with who you feel comfortable talking about some of the most personal matters. A good relationship counselor can help you to feel more at ease while helping you work through problems. Marriage counseling is not always easy, and sometimes there can be painful moments. Having the right person to guide you through and help you with those conversations can be very important. It can be difficult to find a couple’s counselor near you for therapy in Columbus, who is available and a great fit. Many men prefer a male marriage counselor or a male couples counselor.
You need someone who won’t take sides… but will take sides. A marriage counselor should take the side of your relationship and relationship goals. This may mean being called out for being inappropriate or doing things that hurt your relationship. It may mean controlling the session so that there aren’t frequent interruptions and conversations don’t derail. This takes a blend of compassion and directiveness and having a counselor who knows when to use each. If your partner will not go with you, it may still be beneficial to have individual therapy.
Marriage counseling or relationship counseling requires someone who is skilled in helping you meet your relationship goals. For most couples counseling clients, that means trying to repair the relationship. Some couples are more proactive and want pre-marriage or engagement counseling to help them avoid common problems. Some couples come to the conclusion that it is best for them to try separation or want an amicable divorce.
Having someone who used a methodology based on considerable evidence such as Gottman therapy can be extremely important. Every couple is also different, so the ability to take what works from Gottman marriage counseling and also incorporate other methods is also essential. Marriage counseling should be collaborative. Your counselor can help guide you through relationship counseling, and you should be given the opportunity to discuss whatever is on your mind.
A strong commitment is important for relationship counseling. The ability to express yourself and be open about what you are experiencing as a couple is essential to the relationship counseling process.
If you found this website, you likely searched on something like “Columbus OH marriage therapists”, “best marriage counselor near me”, “couple counseling Columbus Ohio” or “Dublin Ohio marriage counseling.” Please peruse the website, read the blogs, and call if you have any questions.
Yes, we have some current availability
Weekday appointments run as late as 5-6. Saturday appointments are available between 8 AM and 11 AM
Yes. Most people find in-person appointments most effective for those in the Columbus, Ohio area. Anyone in Ohio or with different circumstances or preferences can also do virtual appointments.
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