Many people think couples counseling is only for couples who want to make the relationship work. Even popular models like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method barely mention the word divorce, let alone explain how to work with divorcing couples. There is also discernment counseling for those who want to make up their …
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There are many well-researched models of couples therapy, and there seems to be some snobbery that each model is the only one clients or therapists need. The reality is different clients respond differently to different modes of therapy. While drastically simplified, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is about understanding if you fit into familiar patterns unhealthy …
Many couples and individuals come to counseling with the primary goal of getting the counselor “on their side.” In most cases, I don’t think of sides when working with couples because the only side is the relationship. Some clients spend a lot of time pointing out their partner’s faults and looking for validation that they …
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Once upon a time when divorce was rare, most people were driven to divorce by one of the “Triple A” problems: Affairs, Addictions, or Abuse. Divorce meant someone was chronically cheating, repeatedly drunk, or physically violent. Desertion was the fourth reason for divorce in 19th century America when husbands would go west and disappear. Affairs, …
It’s commonly believed that when people enter the legal divorce process, they have come to accept that divorce is inevitable. Even therapists and lawyers tend to assume that once divorce papers are filed, ambivalence about divorcing is over. The only task ahead is to help couples have a constructive end to their marriage. Recent research …
