Vacations Should Enhance Your Life and Relationships, Not be an Escape
Are you running from something on vacation or simply relaxing? I was talking with a relative yesterday about a recent vacation. I was asked by another whether it was a good escape from everyday life. It was a very rewarding vacation, but my relative responded before I could answer that if vacations are an escape […]
Top 5 Reasons to Try Counseling This Summer
The summer months are often the least busy of the year. Perhaps couples and individuals are happier with more sunshine. On the other hand, maybe the summer is busy with vacations or kid’s activities. Regardless, more potential popular slots are available if your summer is more open. Many people ask for Saturday appointments, but those […]
How Complex Trauma Creates Connection Problems
Early childhood trauma can lead to future difficulties with relationships. One technique for addressing negative patterns that result from trauma is the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM). NARM points to environmental failures as sometimes leading to later problems connecting with a partner. NARM brings nervous system regulation into clinical practice (Heller & LaPierre, 2012). This type […]
Where Does Attachment Come From?
However you believe life started, the desire for attachment is in our genes. We want attachment as soon as we leave the womb. Before infants can learn they want attachment, they already start forming bonds. Ancient humans needed attachment to stay safe, reproduce, and survive (and to a lesser extent, so do most of us). […]
Why I Encourage Clients and Couples to Research
I recently participated in a study regarding therapists’ opinions on whether clients should do their own research. The responses were overwhelmingly negative. Some clients have told me they are bipolar based on a YouTube video, but as long as they don’t take drastic action without first talking to a professional, I have no issues with […]
