People change. Maybe not fundamentally, but your goals and aspirations at 22 may not be the same at 45. Couples often come in saying they want their old relationship back. It can be an apples to oranges comparison.
The beginning of the relationship may have been filled with fun dates, lots of sex, and a relatively carefree life. Science even indicates that the critical part of the brain is dampened when near your partner around the time a couple first falls in love. Changing careers, having kids, getting older, taking less care of yourself, and taking each other for granted are common factors that can occur as relationships progress.
Many Couples Say They Would Commit to The Same Person Again but Want Out
It used to surprise me on relationship questionnaires when couples responded that they would commit to the same person again but want a change. Usually, the response is that they have had made great memories or have wonderful kids but have grown apart. On the other hand, perhaps they have become more like good roommates.
But Trying to Fix Your Relationship or Marriage is Worth a Try
It may not be fixable, but it also may be. The reality is that any relationship will probably turn stale at some point. You may find yourself in a new and exciting relationship again, only to discover that you have soon outgrown that one as well. The more times a person gets married, the more likely they will get more and more divorces. Some people aren’t realistic in understanding that long-term relationships aren’t perfect. Marriage Counseling in Columbus, Ohio, may help you decide if your relationship is worth trying to save (ultimately, that decision is one that only you can make, even in counseling). If you question the value of a relationship and have kids, trying to make things work may be the best for them. If your relationship is toxic, ending it could be the best thing for your kids.
